Ever feel like you need to take on pieces of other people's personalities, traits, or characteristics in order to be more successful? This could mean you wish you had the compassion of Cynthia or the boldness of Joe or the acumen of Claire. While admiring others is fine, imitating others can sabotage your leadership and communication effectiveness.
I used to think that everyone had some star quality that could make them successful. Everyone except me that is. I didn't think I had ANY that would make me successful. So I tried to copy and paste other people's drive, passion, determination, and whatever else I thought was just so cool, onto my self. What resulted was a Pablo Picasso cubism type picture of myself.
My sons taught me 8 valuable lessons about striving for your goals at the dinner table last night. These sages are 6 and 4 years old and their lessons were highlighted in their actions not their words. The bottom line: Your choice determines if you reach your goals or not.
If you have an issue, investing in your professional development, there might be a limiting belief lurking. Earlier this week, I wrote about the limiting belief that was lurking in my mind and probably yours too. It was really good.
Recently, I came face to face with this issue and wanted to share it with you.
"We're selling trust. We're selling transparency. And, and, and to think that trust is actually a differentiator in a service business, it's kind of a crazy thought, right?"
Brad Katsuyama said this last night on 60 Minutes. He actually said it in a way that indicated he could hardly believe it himself. He could hardly believe that he is having such success because he proved himself trustworthy.
No Brad...it doesn't sound crazy to me! It sounds like you have discovered that trust is a highly undervalued competitive advantage. As implied in the words of Bruce Lee, trust is in the "doing".
I never particularly liked Owen Wilson or Vince Vaughn until they made the movie The Internship in 2013. When the movie came out on video, I bought it. I loved the movie, not so much for the actors, but because of the message. It places the emphasis on PEOPLE in a technology reliant world.
My favorite line from the movie was delivered by Vince Vaughn. He was trying to convince a small shop owner to expand his business by using technology. The owner was hesitant and then Vince's character said it:
"If you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them"
BRILLIANT! Let me explain why this line resonated with me and how it can change your life too.
I like watching the Biggest Loser. A couple seasons ago a player choose to leave the ranch. What a BRAVE act! Most people berated her because she “quit”. I think she had the courage to say this isn’t for me. But when do you abandon a goal verses just tweaking or recommitting to it?
Make goals that are truly meaningful to you. This was the first tip in my New Year’s post on how to make goals you will actually keep.
Anytime you make a meaningless goal it has no staying power. TWEET THAT
Everyone has a story about how one came to be in his or her profession. As leaders, our stories are apart of us and help shape our choices and influence our decisions. But have you ever told your team your story? Don't think you have a story worth telling? I challenge you to reconsider. Leaders should tell their stories to their teams in order to harness 3 benefits.
In part one, we discovered the origin of New Year's resolutions, their abysmal success rate, and the first 4 strategies that will help you set goals that you will keep. In part two, we continue with the next 4 strategies that will help you beat the odds.
It is resolution season! According to Wikipedia, a New Year's Resolution is a promise to either start doing something good or stop doing something bad beginning the first of the year.
A 2007 study by Richard Wiseman from the University of Bristol involving 3,000 people showed that 88% of those who set New Year resolutions fail, despite the fact that 52% of the study's participants were confident of success at the beginning. Men achieved their goal 22% more often when they engaged in goal setting, (a system where small measurable goals are being set; such as, a pound a week, instead of saying "lose weight"), while women succeeded 10% more when they made their goals public and got support from their friends. source
So how can you bet the odds and actually keep your resolutions? In this two part blog post series, you'll get practical advice that works!
Hi there. I'm Julia. Founder, Executive Coach and Leadership Development expert at Brave Communication LLC. Unless noted, I wrote all of the posts here in.