If you have an issue, investing in your professional development, there might be a limiting belief lurking. Earlier this week, I wrote about the limiting belief that was lurking in my mind and probably yours too. It was really good.
Recently, I came face to face with this issue and wanted to share it with you.
I decided I wanted to go to a conference. I searched and found a conference I wanted to attend. The registration fee was affordable. The speakers and break out panelists were appealing. The location was nice. The date was clear on my calendar. I looked at my budget and I could cover the hotel, registration, and plane ticket.
Then I started overthinking. Would I really benefit from it? What if the speakers, most of whom I didn't know, turned out to be duds? What if there is an emergency that will pop up and I'll need that money? How could I spend that much money on myself?
It was as if I was trying to talk myself out of going. I had all the green lights and it almost seemed too easy to go.
Do you experience this kind of thinking when you are considering investing money in yourself?
I went through this same experience when I decided I wanted to sign up for my business coach. I have always wanted to do it but never did because of the money. How could I spend that much money on myself?
When it comes to this struggle, the good news is that we are not alone. The bad news is that not many women are brave enough to do something about it.
Kathy Caprino, career coach and Forbes.com contributor, wrote an article called The Top 5 Reasons Women Resist Investing In Themselves And How It Is Hurting Them . Go read it.
One of the reasons she lists includes is the fear the money should be used for their families or others.
" Finally, woman after woman has shared her guilt, shame and worry that perhaps she should not spend this sum of money on herself, but put it towards others (her children, the house, etc.) instead. "
That's were I was. Have you been there?
When I talk to women about investing in coaching for themselves they love the idea of the work we can do but resist investing in doing it.
5 Reasons Women Don't Invest In Themselves, according to organizational psychologist, Judi Pears include thoughts like:
1. I'm not sure it is the right time
2. I am not sure what I want
3. I think I am not good enough
4. I am scared of success
5. I don't think I deserve it
Why did I search for a conference to attend in the first place? I recognize that to get to the level I want to go, I have to surround myself with people who also want to go there. I have to learn new things. I have to do new things.
If you want something you've never had, you have to do something that you've never done.
The Danger of NOT Investing In Yourself
You've heard "birds of a feather flock together". It was time I began to find my flock. If I am networking with like minded people it will help me grow. If I am taking the time to hear about the latest struggles in my niche, it strengthens my marketing approach. If I am seeing myself networking with people I once found intimidating, it boosts my confidence.
What message are we sending to ourselves when we say we can't afford to invest in ourselves?
I am not talking about you literally can't afford it. I have been there too. There was a time in my business where I couldn't afford to attend a conference. Thank God I can now. So what's stopping me?
More importantly what's stopping you? If it is in the budget and you know deep down you will benefit, even if you can't pinpoint exactly how, why not do it?
By not investing in your development:
1. You reinforce your fears
Fear is comfortable. We get so used to fear that we keep it around because, well, it has always been there. We regard it as our closest "frenemy" (friend+enemy). You don't get rid of your fears by reinforcing them. You get rid of fear by disproving or confronting them. Read my post on fighting for your limitations.
2. You stifle your growth
You were never meant to be a self enclosed know it all. One of the reasons I am so passionate about healthy relationships is because I believe God gave us relationships to help us heal and grow one another.
The very answer you are looking for might be in the head or heart of another person--a person you can only meet as you step out of your comfort zone.
The inspiration you are looking for might be at that event or in that program you have to invest in. Recognize your worth my dear and go for it.
What investment have you been putting off making?
Maybe you have been thinking about investing in coaching, contact me for a FREE strategy session to see if working together would be a good fit for us both. Click here to schedule your "Awaken Your Brave" strategy session.
Hi there. I'm Julia. Founder, Executive Coach and Leadership Development expert at Brave Communication LLC. Unless noted, I wrote all of the posts here in.